No one speaking in fear (or anger, stress, worry, etc.) is ever speaking the truth.
Even if it’s me.
So I don’t have to worry about what I hear from people speaking in fear (or anger, stress, worry, etc.). They’re caught in a dreamworld of stressful thoughts and beliefs and can’t be held to what they’re saying. Their words mean nothing more than if they were talking in their sleep...which is essentially what they’re doing.
Listen for the feelings and perceived needs behind their words.
Hold them in love.
That’s where I’ll find the truth.