When I worry about being rejected, I reject myself.


When I worry about being rejected, I reject myself in favor of a manipulative false self that’s willing to fold itself into a pretzel in order to keep others’ acceptance. It’s a fool’s errand. It cannot be done from my side of the equation (which is the only side there is).

Who would I be if I couldn’t believe the thought, “I can’t handle rejection?”

  • I would stop arguing with what is

  • I would be generous with people’s reactions and see them for what they are: the unseparatedone” giving itself information about the way of it, about reality. An opportunity to experience and question any stressful thoughts about the world. 

  • I would live true. I would live freely out of my own true nature

  • I would allow the universe to carry me in its benevolent flow. 


When I worry about being hated, I hate myself. I view everything I do with suspicion in case it might cause someone to hate me. I take responsibility for things I have no control over and drive myself into the ground. 

Who would I be if I couldn’t believe the thought, “To be hated is hateful?”

  • I would take responsibility for loving myself 

  • I would have infinite love for others

  • I would see people’s hate for what it is: suffering brought on by confusion. And it wouldn’t be able to cause my own suffering

  • I would be able to listen to the world

  • I would be able to watch the universe unfolding and drink it in. And let it teach me whatever it has to teach me. 

  • I would be able to release myself from the false need to be understood by anyone but me. 

  • I would see that I am one with everyone and everything and there is no separation and therefore no hate in reality

  • I would see that hate is confusion. 


When I worry about being persecuted, I persecute myself. I put myself in a cage for my own sake and torture my free spirit with obligation and isolation.

Who would I be if I couldn’t believe the thought, “I must never endure persecution?”

  • I would be open.

  • I would be free to live out of my own kind and peaceful true nature.

  • I would be able to meet anyone with love.


When I worry about being robbed, I rob myself. I steal precious moments of peace from myself believing that it’s possible to lose anything I truly need, anything that truly belongs to me.

Who would I be if I couldn’t believe the thought, “I must keep what I have?”

  • I would let things flow into and out of my life, grateful for what I have AND for what I’ve been spared.

  • I would be generous with myself and with the world.

  • I would not be able to experience a robbery.



When I worry about being killed, I kill myself. My joyous, open, loving, free and present self. 

Who would I be if I couldn’t believe the thought, “Being killed is unacceptable?”

  • I would allow myself the joy of experiencing reality free of a story of a future. 

  • I would walk without hesitation to where my open and kind heart carries me. 

  • I would be able to love everything for what it is. 

  • I would see the divine everywhere.