Let’s face it: the reason I have impostor syndrome is because I believe I have to SEEM some way in order to be okay, some way that is not the way I see myself right now.
Which means I’m actually faking it, or at least believing I need to. And I can stop.
Wherever I’m being true to myself, I have no impostor syndrome.
If I have impostor syndrome, it’s because I’m trying to convince people of things that I don’t believe are true (they may actually be true, but I’M not convinced).
Now, why would I do that?
Am I…
Afraid of rejection?
Afraid I won’t be enough?
Afraid of missing opportunities?
Afraid of straining relationships?
Afraid of losing my job?
Afraid of losing privileges?
Afraid of being seen as imperfect?
Afraid of feeling like a loser?
Afraid I won’t have access to what I need if I’m just being myself?
Afraid, afraid, afraid.
Fear is what gives me the impulse to fake it. Without fear there is no reason to cause myself stress by denying my true nature. (though I may fake it for fun). The perceived need for faking is what causes impostor syndrome.
So when impostor syndrome crops up, I ask myself, “What am I afraid of?”
And since all fear is confusion, I am essentially asking myself, “What am I confused about?”
That I will be rejected?
That I will miss opportunities?
That it’s better for me to keep a job that requires me to fake it?
That I won’t have access to love or belonging or opportunities that are right for me if I just show up as myself?
That I am unacceptable if I am imperfect?
I identify the confusion and clear it up.
And when I do, I free myself to live in my true nature.
When I’m living in my true nature, it is impossible for me to feel like an impostor.